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HASTI PUBLIC SCHOOL & JR.JUNIOR COLLEGE, DONDAICHA

BLOG NO *161

Our Hasti school in  PTA meetings and during opn house of  one to one interaction  always  advices  parents to have quality time with their children  as  it is very important for their growth and progress.

we understand that Life is very  busy, especially for parents and families. As time goes our to-do lists become fuller and other priorities seem to take preference  over quality family time. Research shows that it is vital to schedule recurring family time with your children

Quality time is that  time wherein  you give  your undivided attention to your children doing tasks that they like to do.

Spending quality time with your children does not have to be a huge undertaking, it can as simple as taking a few minutes each day to spend together without any distractions

 why is quality time with our kids so important?   it is been proved that *Children who are spending more quality time with their families are less likely to participate in risky behaviors such as drug and alcohol usage .

your Love  & your care for your children is the reason for making   them   mentally and emotionally strong. As a parent the best way to do this is to spend quality time with them on a regular basis. Children who spending more quality time with their families are more likely to be physically healthy

Overall, spending quality time with your children is important to them, but is also important to your own well-being.

let us dive deep in to this issue                                                                                                                                                                                             I would like to shar this lovely story of a painter.

When he grew up to become a world-famous painter, in his T.V. interview

He was asked, “How was your childhood?

Did you get lots of paper, pencils, paints as a child? and So did you become a painter?

“His answer is very beautiful.

“My father passed away when I was very young,” he said.Mother used to work.She and I used to live in a hut.

She used to sum up and clean ,with cow dung, the hut every morning while going to work. Then *I would take a piece of charcoal and draw  pictures all over the house all day long.

Mother used to come in the evening. she would look at the pictures with a smile and say, ‘ you have drawn the pictures?’ The next day, the whole hut would be done up again & I use to draw pictures all over again.

She never told me why do you spoil the house everyday?,  I work so hard. I have to do the cleaning , with cow dung, of the whole house everyday. She never edited my pictures. The admiration in her eyes when she said, ‘ have you drawn today the pictures?’ was my inspiration.”

This made me realize what it means to give quality time to children.

Giving quality time means that the child is happy during that time and the parents do not sit on the child’s head but give him freedom,It is a matter of giving your child  the choice of what he/she wanted to do happily.

One more story about my friend.

Her college girlfriend decided to cut off her long hair. The friend said, “I was not opposed to the haircut; But because of or for the sake of braiding and plaiting her hair, we used to be together in peace. We used to have a lot of chats, now everything has stopped!  ”This became another issue of quality time, that parents and children  to take time to relax and sit close, have intimate chats.

The author said , When My daughter was doing her MA in Indology.That is study about the history of Indian art, she used to say to me, “You too come. I will read it to you. You have an interest in all this.”And we used to read her books together. We used to discuss. In my memory  this was our quality time.

Children teach us something, we teach them something and that too not by force, but by real interest, this is the third point of quality time!

When we were in school, we used to go to our  sir in the evening. He used to chat with the people who came to him on so many different topics.We used to listen to them. It felt great! There was a lot of education.Then if they wanted tea in the middle, we would bring tea from inside.

What  beautiful days those were .

Being in the company of people who have reached a certain height, listening to their talk is also quality time. If the person concerned has quality, the (time spent with him from a distance also becomes quality time.

If the parents are constantly teaching something, it is a joyous experience to participate in their efforts. One Kalpana tai says I had a  great love for books and reading. It would be no wonder if my  two daughters did not fall in love with books after seeing and listening to me!

Those mothers and daughter read Rabindranath together. Read many stories, biographies, novels together, they struggled to learn Bengali. Learned to dance. A lot of painting experiments going on all the time. Their hands work cleanly. Does embroidery, painting. & do new things. At the same time, go to children’s institutions (orphanage). Play with them, chat, read books to them. Overall his outlook on life is very rich.

Constantly doing something new, good, useful for the society, building our own platform from it, the time spent with the parents becomes “quality time”.

Why do we like to spend time with certain people?Why do some enjoy company while others do not? Why do children say that parents’ company is ‘boar’ ?

If the parents do not grow up as genuine people, the children and others will get bored in their company*! Quality time does not mean spending a lot of money and providing different kinds of entertainment to children*.So they will know life,  give them experiences that will make them grow.  We should act such that those experiences will become happy memories in their life**.

From the story of the painter, it is clear that he did not need money, It takes love  and understanding for your child. feelings, and respect*. Even if you suffer yourself, you feel happy about it.

If you want to live a quality life, the time you spend consciously is quality time. Of course it will be attacked, something will cause discomfort; But it is necessary to keep our children a little away from it and protect them at a young age.

There are always many things to learn around. This opportunity comes to us for the sake of children. The time we spend with children in meaningful happiness through their studies, their hobbies, their wanderings, interactions with them, *their growth stages is ‘Quality Time.’

If there is a sense of quality in a person’s life, the time with them automatically becomes quality time. But it requires the moisture of emotion along with intellect. Along with happiness, there should be a sense of responsibility. There has to be a feeling of giving back to the society along with the family.

Cultural level of  understanding is needed* and money, education are not the conditions for all this! If nothing else, even a straight, pure mind can accomplish many of these things.

What do children need ?

Love, Freedom, Dignity, Self Appreciation! The painter’s mother gave the same and gave a “quality” to his life.